Yes, go ahead and roll your eyes now.
Now that you're done scoffing and contemplating reading this post I can continue. This is something I've been wrestling with for about 7 months now.
I've always been a thin person even without much diet or exercise (go ahead, roll your eyes again). That has just been my experience as an adult. I've never worried about my weight too much. When I got pregnant, I was still relatively thin. I mostly had just a belly until the last 2 months. I worried about gaining too much weight and not being able to lose it. I ended up gaining 50 pounds during pregnancy. 50! Let that sink in. Every time someone would see me in my last couple of months of pregnancy, they felt the need to comment on my weight. I'm sure this happens to every pregnant woman. Right? Maybe? Don't feel the need to comment on how big woman has gotten during pregnancy. FYI- she knows! Regardless, it really got under my skin. Especially when comments came from men. Like, are you ever going to carry an entire human being in your stomach? NO! Stop commenting on women's weight.
I think the comments that would get to me the most were, "oh, you've always been skinny. You'll lose it fast", "just breastfeed and the weight will come right off", "just exercise while the baby sleeps", "it's just baby weight, it'll come right off", "stop worrying about your weight". I usually try not to internalize people's words too much but it was obviously already an insecurity so all of this echoed in my head right after the baby was born. In midst of breastfeeding, changing diapers, swaddling and trying to put the baby to sleep -- I would look down at my baby pouch that was still very present after birth. Months after birth. It made me feel pretty sad. That may sound vein to some but postpartum hormones, social media, people's words and your own perception of what you should weigh really mess with your brain. I can't speak for all moms but it messed with my brain.
I breastfed and still didn't lose weight. In fact, breastfeeding just made me more hungry. I didn't exercise during the baby's 30 minute naps because I was too busy doing his laundry, crying, cleaning, dealing with anxiety, pumping or trying to catch a nap. Who wants to exercise with all of that going on? I'm proud of where I am now, even though I haven't lost all of the baby weight but I've worked hard to get to where I am. I'm working hard to continue losing the weight.
To all the mommy's out there struggling with weight loss....whatever your journey is, don't beat yourself up too much! You had an entire human being inside of you. Don't let social media and celebrities trick you into thinking that their bodies snap back in one week. They have access to plastic surgeons, top nutritionists, top trainers, nannies, etc. Some moms will lose all the weight (some pretty quickly), others will lose some weight and some moms may never lose the weight. Everyone's body is different and responds differently to birth. Again, don't be so hard on yourself.
Hopefully I encouraged some of you all while encouraging myself as well. You got this!